Chapter One: What Happens To Love After The Wedding?

What Happens To Love After The Wedding?

It was wonderful before we got married, but somehow after the wedding everything fell apart.  All the love I thought I had for her and the love she seemed to have for me evaporated.

I can believe it happened to me three time

The desire for romantic love is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup

Keeping love alive in our marriages is serious business

The Truth We're Missing

People speak different Love Languages

If we are to communicate effectively across cultural line, we must learn the language of those with whom we wish to communicate with

Your emotional language and the language of your spouse (co-worker, friends, family members, church member) could be as different as Chinese from English

My friend on the plan  was speaking the language of "Affirming Words" to his third wife when he said, "I told how beautiful she was..."

Perhaps she was looking for love in his behavior and did not see it. Being sincere is  not enough


There are  not 10, 20, 365 basic love languages. In my opinion there are only five. However, there may be numerous dialects (of Love)

Seldom do a husband and wife, ( two friends, co-workers etc...)  have the same emotional love language

We tend to speak our primary love language, and and we become confused when  our spouse don't understand what we are communicating. We are expressing our love, but the message does not come through because we are speaking what, to them, is as a foreign language.

Once you have learned to speak your spouse's primary love language, I believe that you will have discovered the key to a long lasting, loving marriage.

Love need not to evaporate the wedding, but in order to keep it alive most of us will have to put in the effort to learn a secondary love language.



Discussion Questions:

1. Does the Five Love Language only apply to a marriage or romantic relationship?

2. Is it possible to apply these languages to friends, co-workers, church members, and family?

3. How is one's love language form?

4. If we answered #2 Yes, How can we at Friendship use this book to better communicate the love of Christ to them in ways they would understand?

Here is the website where you can take the test to know your Love Language:

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/