The 5 Love Language, Chapter 15: LOVE IS A CHOICE

How can we speak each other's love language when we have full of hurt, anger, and resentment over our past failures?

We have the capacity to make poor choices, which all of us have done.

Poor choices in the past does not mean that we must make them in the future. Instead we can say, "I'm sorry. I know I have hurt you, but I would like to make the future different.

Love does not erase the past, but it makes the future different.

"I just don't love her anymore"

The in-love experience temporarily meets one's emotional need for love.

If I learn emotional love Language of my spouse and speak it frequently, she will continue to feel loved.

Meeting my wife's need for love is a choice I make each day.  

Few men, suffering from an empty emotional love tank, leave their marriage until they have prospects of meeting that need somewhere else.

True, long-lasting emotional love is a choice and that emotional love could be reborn in his marriage if he and his wife learned to love each other in the right love language.

Actions and Emotions

The key to the rebirth of their marriage was discovering each other's primary love language and choosing to speak it frequently.

You see, when an action does not come naturally to you, it is greater expression of love

Love is something you do for someone else, not something you do for yourself.

We discover the primary love language of our spouse, and we choose to speak it whether or not it is natural for us.

We want to meet our spouse's emotional need, and we reach out to speak his love language. In so doing his emotional tank is filled and chances are he will reciprocate and speak our love language .

Love is a choice. And either partner can start the process today..

 

Chapter 9: Discovering you Primary Love Language

Chapter 9, discovering your Primary love Language

How do you know.

What is your primary love language? 

What makes you feel most love by your spouse? 

What do you desire most above all else? 

Another way to discovering your primary love language is to look back over your marriage and ask, "what have I most often requested of my spouse?

Another way to discover your primary love language is to examine what you do or say to express love to your spouse.

Chances are what you are doing for her is what you wish she would do for you.

So you may discover your own love language by asking, "how do is consciously express love to my spouse?

*The opposite of what hurts you the most is probably you love language.

*The thing you have most often requested is likely the thing that would make you feel most love.

*Your method of expressing live may be an indication that that would also make you feel love.

If the Languages seems to be equal for you, that is, both speak loudly to you, then perhaps you are bilingual... 

Chapter 8: Love language #5

Love Language #5 PHYSICAL TOUCH

THE POWER OF TOUCH

of the five senses, touching, unlike the other four, is not limited to one localized area of the body.

Physical touch can make or break a relationship. It can communicate hate or love.

In marriage, the touch of love may take many forms.

Touching your spouse as you walk through the room where he is sitting takes only a moment.

Touching each other when you leave the house and again when you return may involve only a brief kiss or hug but will speak volumes to your spouse.

Hugging your spouse before she goes shopping may not only express love, it may bring her home sooner.

THE BODY IS FOR TOUCH

The average American male may not feel comfortable with the European bear hug and kiss, but in Europe that serves the same function as our shaking hands.

There are appropriate and inappropriate ways to touch members of the opposite sex in every society

CLEARLY OUR BODY IS FOR TOUCHING, NOT FOR ABUSE

Crisis and Physical Touch

Physical touch is a powerful communicator of love

All marriage will experience crises...

The most important thing you can do for your mate in time of crisis is to love him or her.

Your words may mean little, nut your touch will communicate that you care.

The 5 love language #4

Chapter 7: Acts of Service

Actions such as cooking a meal, Setting a table, watching dishes, vacuuming, cleaning a commode, changing the baby's diaper, dusting the book case, keeping the car in operating condition, paying the bills,trimming the shrubs, Walking the dog, dealing with the landlords and insurance companies are all acts of service

Acts of service require thought, planning, time effort, and energy. If done with the right spirit, they are expressions of live as well.

CONVERSATION IN A MILL TOWN 

Can a couple make it in marriage if they disagree on everything?

If Mark and Mary had the same primary love Language, why where they having so much difficulty? The answer lies in the fact that they were speaking different  dialects.

Since acts of service wS their primary love language, learning each other's specific dialect was relatively easy for them.

They illustrate clearly that what we do for each other before marriage in not an indication of what we will do after marriage.

Love is a choice and cannot be coerced.

My wife criticism's about my behavior provide me with the clearest clue to her primary love language.

DOORMAT or LOVER?

Allowing oneself to be used and manipulated by another is not an act of love. It is in fact, an act of treason. You are allowing him or her to develop inhuman habits. 

Love says I love you too much to let you treat me this way. It's not good for you or me. 

Is it that simple?

Simple yes, easy, No.